And why we don't do "that"I did not infant bond with my birth mother, Jessie. Instead, she was institutionalized for the first six weeks of my life. I was handed over to my maternal grandparents with whom I infant bonded. Once Jessie was home, I was removed from my grandparents and given over to Jessie to begin my torture. I wasn't born with developmental delays, but because I was given over to someone who was mentally ill and probably shouldn't have been around children at all, I do have developmental delays. In some areas I excelled because Jessie put her focus on things like spelling, reading and sitting pretty and looking nice. She emphasized, as I got older, that my face was going to be an area that she would target. My face was her target. She chose ad hominem as her tool. I won nothing with her ever. She won every round she played with me because she never stuck to the issues and refused resolution opting instead to verbally attack. I do not ad hominem. I also do not fux with anyone who ad hominems their issues. There is no reason to assault a loved one's character or person or being simply to win an argument. I am also opposed to anyone whom I witness practicing ad hominem instead of working to resolve issues. Folks who fux with ad hominem types are stuck in decaying cycles of abuse that are refusing to prosper or benefit this style of debate. It's woeful to be on the receiving end of an ad hominem. One of the other things my parents did was choose my first husband over me after we divorced. They chose their son-in-law over their own daughter. He, too, was an ad hominem freak. Anytime I tried to address our issues, he would go on the attack and become verbally vicious. He was combative always and saw himself as the "ultimate victor". And good for him. Good for them. Now, the ad hominem people that used to be in my life have formed themselves a little ole ad hominem club of folks who lost me forever because they couldn't stop attacking me, my character and my face. My face is not a subject for you ever. My face is mine. It's my persona. It's part of my assigned person that I'm growing into. It's not available for speculation, comment, conjecture or even accusation. My face is off the subject list forever. It's not your face. You're welcome to discuss your own face all you like, but mine isn't available. Ever.
As far using my face in your ad hominem. Don't. It's playing dirty and I won't abide to your filthy habits. Don't make it a habit. Don't do it at all. If it's not your face, so shut up about it entirely if you're not exercising total kindness.
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